Japan’s Relationship with Difference: How to Live Fully While Being “Different”
If you're relocating to Japan—or already living here—you might be wondering: How can I truly belong while still being myself?
Summary:
Respect the culture, but keep your core – 和して同ぜず (Washite Douzezu)
Learn basic Japanese phrases
Embrace the “foreigner card” wisely
Don’t expect rapid change
Get comfortable with being “different”
Japan’s Relationship with “Different”
An American friend once told me, “I love living in Japan, but I’ll always be an outsider.” It stuck with me. While I lived in the U.S., I occasionally felt excluded—but never like I didn’t belong. Returning to Japan in 2017 after 12 years abroad, I was struck by how homogeneous the society still was. On TV, everyone is Japanese. Conference ads in the Nikkei newspaper showcased only Japanese speakers.
So what does it mean to live a fulfilling life here—when you stand out?
1. A Homogeneous Society—By Design
Japan is one of the most ethnically and culturally uniform countries in the world. Over 97% of the population is ethnically Japanese. As of 2023, foreigners make up just 2.3% of residents, including both temporary and permanent residents.
This homogeneity is rooted in Japan’s history. For over 200 years, the country practiced sakoku (鎖国), a policy of national seclusion. Its legacy is cautious, insular mindset toward difference—even today.
2. Being “Different” Isn’t a Problem—If You Reframe It
Growing up, I moved schools frequently due to my father’s banking job. As a transfer student, I was always a bit of an outsider—but I learned to see it as bringing something new to the table.
The same applies in Japan. Your background, language, and mindset are assets, not obstacles. Embrace them—and let others learn from you too.
3. Historically Closed, Slowly Opening
Yes, Japan has been slow to open up. But pressures like labor shortages, global communication platform and younger generations are pushing for change. Younger generations and forward-thinking CEOs increasingly see diversity not as a risk, but as an opportunity—especially in sectors like tech, healthcare, and finance.
Progress may feel slow, but it’s happening.
4. How to Live Fully in a Less Diverse Society: 和して同ぜず (Washite Douzezu)
This beautiful Japanese phrase means “Harmony without conformity.” In other words, respect the group, but don’t lose yourself.
Here’s how:
✅ Respect the Culture, But Keep Your Core
You don’t need to “become Japanese.” But understanding how things work—like group harmony, respect, and rules—helps you connect without compromising who you are.
✅ Learn Basic Japanese Phrases
A few simple phrases—“Ohayo gozaimasu,” “Arigatou,” “Sumimasen”—go a long way. They show effort and earn respect.
✅ Embrace the “Foreigner Card” (Wisely)
Yes, you’ll be treated differently. But that’s not always bad. Use it as a bridge—not a barrier. People often respond kindly to sincere effort.
✅ Don’t Expect Rapid Change
Japan evolves slowly—but progress is happening. Celebrate small wins: more women on panels, a bilingual boss, or a paternity policy that didn’t exist 10 years ago.
✅ Reframe “Different” as a Strength
Your difference is needed. Japan’s future depends on innovation—and innovation requires diverse perspectives.
A Personal Story: Small Acts Matter
When my husband moved to Japan, he made a real effort to respect local customs. He sorted garbage meticulously (kitchen scraps, plastics, cans, boxes—everything), held doors for neighbors, and greeted people warmly.
“Ohayo gozaimasu” was too long to say fluently, so he’d usually say “Ohayo… gosu!” before people had walked away. One day, an elderly couple said, “We’ve heard that you’re kind and respectful—we appreciate it.”
That moment meant everything.
Wrap-Up: Diversity, the Japanese Way
Japan may not be the most visibly diverse country yet—but that doesn’t mean you can’t thrive here.
You don’t need to change who you are. Just bring your best self with curiosity, kindness, and patience. Understand where you’ve landed, respect the people around you—and you’ll build a fulfilling life, in your own unique way.
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